Parental Care
Parental Care is of utmost importance to all growing children. In tamil they say “Maatha, Pitha, Guru, Deivam” which means Mother, Father, Teacher and God. That is the sequence of importance one has to give in life.
Mother gives birth to the child and knows the child much better than everybody else in the world. Mother is the “First and the Best” teacher for a child. Even before the child is ready to go to school the Mother teaches alphabets, numbers and nursery rhymes to the child. Father provides the requisite protection and security that is so much vital in this world.
Parents always care for their children and keep thinking of how to support the children and how to make them into a very good grown up individual. No one else will be concerned so much about the overall development of an individual. As a kid and as a youngster I have got irritated with my parents on several occasions. I have shouted at my mother on several occasions. I have not appreciated and failed to understand her care, love and affection. It took a very long time for me to realise this and finally when I became a parent I started realizing how stupid I was during my younger days.
I have completed 47 years of existence in this world and when I look back into my own life, my thoughts are filled with the greatest legendary couple – Smt.Pushpa Parthasarathy and Shri.T.R.Parthasarathy Iyengar – my parents. They were responsible for my birth into this world and it is a great blessing that I was born to this legendary couple.
My father is a great individual who has taught me Discipline. The self imposed discipline has made me into a well rounded person, giving me the ability to organise myself, lead by example and demonstrate all the time how a well organised, systematic approach could lead to successful implementation of plans.
I am very proud to write my name as T.P.Anand and I am known in office and among friends as TP. “T” stands for Tirupathi (my native place – my fore fathers hail from Tirupathi) and “P” stands for Parthasarathy (my father).
Incidentally “P” also represents my mother “Pushpa”. Some people tell only their first name and even write only their first name. Some others write their initials after the name. I am proud and blessed to be
known as T.P.Anand and popularly called as “TP”.
Whenever I meet somebody for the first time I am very proud to tell that person my pedigree and about my brothers and sister. It gives a great feeling to say that you are born to “so and so” parents and your brother is “this” and another brother is “that” and your sister is “this” & she is married to “so and so”.
My father though physically handicapped has faced several challenges in life with a brave heart. He is very methodical and systematic. He has a flair of his own and style that he maintains in everything he does. For me he has been a great “Hero” and many of my qualities are copied from him. He can play Harmonium, Tabla, Doluk and is very fond of Filmy Music.
He used to spend two full days to decorate the 9 steps for Navarathri Kolu in our house. We all used to rally around him and help him with the arrangement of dolls, decoration of the 9 steps with so many colour papers. He used to cut them so nicely into different designs with lot of ease and passion.
He was one of the most successful Sales Managers and used to always come back from his business tours with sales orders. Once I took him to an Orthopedic Surgeon and when my father said he is in Sales the Doctor was actually shocked and said you have only one leg and you are touring 28 days in a month on sales. The doctor said to my father “you are not supposed to be in Sales. You should do a proper desk job and walk as little as possible in the day”. My father said “Doctor I have been travelling extensively and doing a Sales job all my life – now more than 30 years – and how can I now switch over to a desk job”. Eventually my father retired as a Sales Manager after more than 30 years of successful selling career.
He set up a business to trade in spare parts for Cinematographic Equipments which he ran successfully for nearly 10 years. He finally gave up the business venture and took shelter at home once and for all at the age of 70. He is now 81 and we celebrated the “Sadabishekam” on 9th January 2010 in Chennai. Behind every successful man there is a woman. Behind this successful legend Shri.T.R.Parthasarathy there is a woman – Smt.Pushpa Parthasarathy.
This picture was taken at the 81st Birthday Celebration of my father – Sadaabishegam and my elder brother T.P.Ashok is behind them (Ashok has been a great source of support for my Parents – the most obedient child).
My mother though not formally educated in an University is the most intelligent woman that I have met in my life. She took the bold decision of marrying a physically handicapped person (which is highly commendable) and has raised four children.
My sister, two brothers and myself are all very well qualified professionals. My Sister Mrs.Vyjayanthi Raman is an “Interior Designer” and a “Social Worker” and she is married to Mr.S.K.Raman a very successful Chartered Accountant. My eldest brother T.P.Ravikumar is a Software professional working for IBM. My elder brother T.P.Ashok is a software professional and a banker working for IOB. Last but not the least, I am the last of the siblings – qualified Chartered Accountant. All the four of us have had very good education and upbringing – thanks to my wonderful mother.
She has been a wonderful cook and though she has not been interested in handicrafts she suddenly took interest in stitching fancy clothes for temples. My father helps her with the cutting of clothes and purchase of materials. My mother makes very beautiful and highly creative clothes in velvet and other materials for the Hindu Temples. Her handy work is displayed in most of the Hindu Temples in Tamil Nadu and even in the United States. It is a great service that my father and mother are doing for the Hindu Temples. This good deed will bear fruit and probably guide the next generation (the children of our generation – my sister, brothers and myself) and help them grow up as very good human beings.
I am very proud to be the son of this legendary couple. They have shown me what parental care is all about and I am trying my best to show similar parental care to my children.
T.P.Anand, Dubai, U.A.E.
1st July 2010
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Dear TP,
Excellent post TP. Your Parents, Siblings, Wife & Kids would be proud to read this article. I am really touched with this article and would make every reader Proud about thir parents & siblings.
Cheers,
M Venkatesh S/o Smt. M C Shyamala & Shri. G Margabandhu.
Very well written. One only realizes the true value of parents when they become one. – Vanessa Lopez
It’s extremely touching. I could relate to almost all that was written as i have heard it from you.
Br,
Ram
Going by the comments, the TRP ratings are surely high for this post!
Sam
Very well said TP.I am sure most of us have the same amount of respect for our parents. Here the only problem is we don’t realize this and usually start taking them for granted. I was also part of the same breed with a very casual attitude toward my parents until the day my father left us all of a sudden with a stroke. Now when I look back I feel I didn’t or rather couldn’t do anything for him. All the years he worked for us and when it was the time to settle down after retirement, he was not there with us. This will always remain with me as the deepest sorrow of my life and keeping this in mind I have always tried to make sure my mother has everything including the much deserved respect from us. I love you Mom and am really very very sorry Papa…
Thanks once again
Regards
Praveen
TRP ratings are always high for TRP (T.R.Parthasarathy)
I used TRP just to have the pun!
Hi Anand – As usual, your way of expressing your thoughts and events are excellent and beautifully written article. As i have met your parents and the amount of love & affection they show to all is defintely commendable.
In 2005,i was shifted to Sharjah on official work, till then i was staying with my parents and during the days of my stay in Sharjah, i really felt the parental care of my mother. In 2008,I returned back to chennai and had the fortune of staying with my father during his last days.
As you said, i really feel proud to say my father’s name and to say “I am son of Mr………..”.
Regards,
Karthik
Dear Anand,
Every single letter you wrote touched all my veins!! Great way of expressing thanks and I do join you in saluting our parents for what they did and stood for. For me, they are and will be Mother, Father, Teacher and God.
I always tell my friends and contacts that for me the role model has always been my father and I follow many of his ideals and principles. Words are failing me here. Real motivator to try and emulate them as a parent myself.
Ravi
dear anand,
very touching,
well written, your should write more
love
Sundar
Thanks Mr.TP Anand for yet another good article…I know you thru Mr.Sam and few of your blogs at this webpage.
The Taittariya Upanishad has a famous saying which goes as below:
मातृ देवो भव, पितृ देवो भव, आचार्य देवो भव, अतिथि देवो भव(Let you be the one who worships mother, father, teachers and guests as God).
Regarding MOTHER : I find all mothers are like great Yogi……a Yogi rejects all materialistic comfort on earth and tries to build a relationship with an unknown world i.e. with God and divine atmosphere. Our mothers are also doing the same when they get married……they leave all comforts at their home and starts her journey to an unknown atmosphere at in-laws family.
I also find our mothers are the GREATEST ADMINISTRATOR on this earth…most of our Administrators are finding problem in making right balance between Raaj-Satta & Dharma-Satta..they are very confused as when to use what satta(administrative power)……….but our mothers know it very right and uses those at right proportion to build up their child/childrens. Our mothers provide love also they give slap (if needed), give indulgence and also strict punishment……ALL THESE, our MOTHERS DO WITH THE POWER OF LOVE and that is the way mothers gives us sanskara(ethics).
I like that song, sung by Mr.SP Balasubramanium…
yeh toh sach hai kee bhagwan hai, hai magar phir bhee anjan hai
dharatee pe rup ma bap kaa, uss vidhata kee pehchan hai…
Thanks Saumen.
I will be writing soon on the “Best Business Manager in every House Wife”
Thanks Mr. TP Anand for your remarks. I feel, the only way to give demo to our child(rens) is the way we am treating our parents. Will wait for next post…
Dear Mr.Anand,
I have heard about you through Mr.Sathyamurthy as an excellent human being.. After reading this article, I can understand the priorities of your concern towards your parents. In this context I am remembering an email which was sent to me sometimes back, by my daughter Ms.Nivrutha,13 years old , “The Boy and the Apple Tree”, you might have known about this story. A boy grows near an apple tree,plays with it,every time he comes to the tree asking for something from the tree, to fulfill his requirement, the tree without any hesitation gives its fruits,branches, and finally the trunk also for the happiness of the boy, but the boy when he became old, realized the sacrifices of the tree,but at time the tree is no more and he cries for the tree… We all must have known this story, but we tend to forget the past due to the fast life style. I appreciate you for not giving up anything for the sake of life style changes. May god shower all the blessings and kindness to your parents,to you and your wife children. wishing you with warm regards. V.Balaji,V.Radha(my wife),B.Nivrutha(my daughter),B.Aniruth Narayanan(my son) ofcourse also my father Mr.R.Venkatachari,and my mother V.Santha.
Indeed, it is a very good article for the new generations to remind their responsibilities towards their parents.
Thanks a lot to the author for his time to write this realistic article, as many people don’t find the time to remember or visiting their parents.
HI MR.TP!I AM BINDU HERE…PRAVEEN NAIR’S SIS…N I HAPPEN TO READ YOUR ARTICLE DUE TO HIM!! ITS A COMMENDABLE ARTICLE N TOUCHED ME TO THE CORE!!! NO HARD FEELINGS BUT WE ALL KNW FROM OUR HEART THE TRUTH OF HOW OUR PARENTS HAVE BEEN N WHAT THEY HAVE BEEN DOING BUT THING IS WE ALL ARE SO SELFISH THAT NOTHING SEEMS TO MATTER MORE THAN OUR OWN FAMILY INTERESTS N EVERYBODY IS WORKING SO HARD IN THEIR RESPECTIVE FIELDS JUST FOR THE BETTERMENT OF OUR OWN FUTURE N MOST OF US NEED PARENTS JUS TO LOOK AFTER OUR KIDS OR HOUSE…SO UR ARTICLE COMES AS A BREATH OF FRESH AIR AS U POURED OUT UR HEART IN THE FORM OF BEAUTIFUL WORDS N PENNED IT DOWM AS A GESTURE OF UR THANKSGIVING….I JUST HOPE EVEN GOD GIVES ME SUCH A STRENGTH TO DO SO…AS ITS ALWAYS BETTER LATE THAN NEVER! REGARDS!
Excellent article! I read yours when I was searching what should be done for Sadabhishekam.. We are looking at celebrating 79th bday of my FIL and wanted to know the procedures etc. By any chance, would you have a list of what should be done for 79th and 80th birthdays?
can you email please?
Thanks much
K
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